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A divorce recovery guide
Co-Parenting After Divorcing a Narcissist
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- ✓Why co-parenting may be impossible with a narcissist, and what to do instead
- ✓How to spot parental alienation and loyalty conflicts in your kids
- ✓Setting boundaries, and staying calm when they are infuriating
- ✓How to talk to your children about the divorce, including teenagers
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Written from lived experience
Not theory. Isabella survived a two-year toxic relationship
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Cited, not invented
Eight chapters across three parts, with a full references section
You're not imagining it
—You left, and he still has a hold over your whole week.
—You've been made to feel guilty for not being able to co-parent.
—You keep making peace over and over, for the kids.
—Every attempt to be reasonable gets used against you.
Verbatim from Chapter Six
“Co-parenting may be impossible for you if your ex is a narcissist. I've had some people feel guilty for not being able to successfully co-parent with their narc ex. So please don't feel bad about not co-parenting.”
Isabella Francis · Chapter Six
Standard co-parenting advice
This book
Assumes both parents want the same thing
Assumes one of them does not
Communicate more openly
Disarm, set boundaries, stop people-pleasing
Keep trying to co-parent
Names parallel parenting as the alternative
Starts with logistics
Starts with grief, where you actually are
Why this book exists
Most co-parenting advice assumes both parents want the same thing.
Isabella wrote it after her own two-year toxic relationship, over five years, because she went looking for this book and could not find it. It does not open with tactics. It opens with grief, because that is where readers actually are.
What's inside
Eight chapters, in the order recovery actually happens
Part One
Divorce Aftermath
1. Let Yourself Grieve
2. The After-Effects of Narcissistic Abuse
3. Clearing the Mess After
Part Two
Protecting Yourself and Your Child
4. Helping Your Children Come to Terms
5. Disarming the Narcissist
6. Co-Parenting With the Narcissist Ex
Part Three
Moving On With Grace
7. Positive Co-Parenting: How To
8. Rebuilding Your Life
“You can't win the war if you keep losing every battle. You need to wake up and step back into your life.”
Isabella Francis · Introduction
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Isabella wrote this from inside her own two-year toxic relationship. The book does not start with tactics, it starts with grief and the after-effects of narcissistic abuse, because that is where most readers actually are when they pick it up.
It is built in three parts and eight chapters, each broken into short sections. You do not have to read it cover to cover. Open to the part that matches where you are today, whether that is grief, protecting your child, or rebuilding.
Most co-parenting advice assumes your ex will eventually cooperate. Chapter Six says plainly that co-parenting may be impossible with a narcissist, and covers when to choose parallel parenting instead. It is written for the situation you actually have.
No. The book addresses parents of either gender, and the reader reviews come from both. The situation it describes, an ex who will not negotiate in good faith, is not specific to one parent.
Not to get value from the book. The Companion Workbook adds healing prompts, reflection exercises, and strategies to work through on paper. If you tend to read and move on, the workbook is what makes it stick.
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